DR. MARTIN LUTHER KING ON
NON-VIOLENCE ....
Saturday, November 14, 2009
Tuesday, May 19, 2009
Using Film to Unite Parents and Younger Generation
Producing films to show what is happening in the home with parents and children is an important remedy to bring certain realities out in the open.
Sketching a simple script, I entered the home of a friend. The father was yelling at his 18-year old son because he had just learned that the boy was dating a classmate ! The son stood completely oblivous of his father's remarks. He just continued to pick up his books and walk out of the house.
The scene shows the father watching his son disappear at the turn of the street ... into the world. He turned to the camera, mumbling under his breath: " He says he is going to the library to study. I don't believe him for one moment ! He is going to meet the girl."
A voice from the camera replies: "Well, he has the right to go and study in the library. Also, he is 18 and a young adult. You should allow him his youthful independence to date a girl. Would you prefer that he sneaked around because he knew your attitude and refused to tell you about himself. He is a young healthy man with a head on his shoulders. Let him explore what his peers at school have been doing ... dating since 13 and 14."
"Yes, you are right. He has been an A-grade student because I insisted that he should not think of dating until he is 18. And he listened. He understood the reasons, because most of his friends dated and had got girls into trouble, and had to marry or refuse to marry them. He saw what they were going through ... " the father replied.
"He sensed your personal concern about his own life ... in what you had been telling him fo rso many years," the voice in the camera reminded the father.
Parents should be aware of the kind of social peer pressures the young lad confronted watching everyone at school dating ... he must have taken alot of "bull" from his buddies at school.
To conclude, the camera voice advised the father not to insist too much on demanding his son to listen to him. At 18, the boy knew what he wanted and needed. It was more important for the father to guide his son with compassion and trust. The father should listen more ... understand why and what his son's remarks mean. Let him share his feelings of dating when he returns, if he was willing to talk. Become a friend to his son as most fathers.
The father nodded his head. He realized his son was growing up into an adult and had to let him think for himself. His yellings will have no consequences any more on the question of dating. He had to let go of the boy and accept the young man his son had become.
For most parents this is a bothersome reality, which can turn family living into a disasterous track and drive children to yearn to run away from home. It is happening everywhere in the world.
Sketching a simple script, I entered the home of a friend. The father was yelling at his 18-year old son because he had just learned that the boy was dating a classmate ! The son stood completely oblivous of his father's remarks. He just continued to pick up his books and walk out of the house.
The scene shows the father watching his son disappear at the turn of the street ... into the world. He turned to the camera, mumbling under his breath: " He says he is going to the library to study. I don't believe him for one moment ! He is going to meet the girl."
A voice from the camera replies: "Well, he has the right to go and study in the library. Also, he is 18 and a young adult. You should allow him his youthful independence to date a girl. Would you prefer that he sneaked around because he knew your attitude and refused to tell you about himself. He is a young healthy man with a head on his shoulders. Let him explore what his peers at school have been doing ... dating since 13 and 14."
"Yes, you are right. He has been an A-grade student because I insisted that he should not think of dating until he is 18. And he listened. He understood the reasons, because most of his friends dated and had got girls into trouble, and had to marry or refuse to marry them. He saw what they were going through ... " the father replied.
"He sensed your personal concern about his own life ... in what you had been telling him fo rso many years," the voice in the camera reminded the father.
Parents should be aware of the kind of social peer pressures the young lad confronted watching everyone at school dating ... he must have taken alot of "bull" from his buddies at school.
To conclude, the camera voice advised the father not to insist too much on demanding his son to listen to him. At 18, the boy knew what he wanted and needed. It was more important for the father to guide his son with compassion and trust. The father should listen more ... understand why and what his son's remarks mean. Let him share his feelings of dating when he returns, if he was willing to talk. Become a friend to his son as most fathers.
The father nodded his head. He realized his son was growing up into an adult and had to let him think for himself. His yellings will have no consequences any more on the question of dating. He had to let go of the boy and accept the young man his son had become.
For most parents this is a bothersome reality, which can turn family living into a disasterous track and drive children to yearn to run away from home. It is happening everywhere in the world.
Sunday, May 17, 2009
Helpless Relationships Between Young and the Matured
With so much happening around the world (terrorism, wars, natural disasters, global warming, etc. ... the gap between the young and the matured is widening every day. The young cannot understand how the matured generation was not aware of the present day situations and this is splitting them apart.
Shared love, compassion, forgiveness and living a peaceful life seems so superficial. Each party wants to abide with their own rules and regulations. Everyone feels the others don't understand, can't comprehend nor share what is happening day by day ...
How can we talk in "honesty" and communicate with parents, siblings, children, friends and lovers, all those people we associate with every day ? Parents are worrying about the lack of communication with their children. The lack of control. Children feel parents are over-bearing with concern and simply cannot understand that they are growing into individuals with minds of their own.
Suddenly, there is the terrible distaste about each other ... the complaints that neither party understands the other's needs, wants and desires. It is becoming a crazy existence and all that is needed is talking to each other in a simpler fashion. Do you think this is a fact ?
Why is the relationship between children and parents, young and old, so helpless ? It seems like the younger generation is drifting apart and away into a world of their own ... where parents and anyone older, cannot enter. Everyone is demanding to be left alone. Let's discuss the situation and find solutions ?
Shared love, compassion, forgiveness and living a peaceful life seems so superficial. Each party wants to abide with their own rules and regulations. Everyone feels the others don't understand, can't comprehend nor share what is happening day by day ...
How can we talk in "honesty" and communicate with parents, siblings, children, friends and lovers, all those people we associate with every day ? Parents are worrying about the lack of communication with their children. The lack of control. Children feel parents are over-bearing with concern and simply cannot understand that they are growing into individuals with minds of their own.
Suddenly, there is the terrible distaste about each other ... the complaints that neither party understands the other's needs, wants and desires. It is becoming a crazy existence and all that is needed is talking to each other in a simpler fashion. Do you think this is a fact ?
Why is the relationship between children and parents, young and old, so helpless ? It seems like the younger generation is drifting apart and away into a world of their own ... where parents and anyone older, cannot enter. Everyone is demanding to be left alone. Let's discuss the situation and find solutions ?
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